10 Ways To Open Up Your Heart After It’s Been Completely Broken

Abreakupcan leave even the strongest person feeling vulnerable and wounded. There’s no shame in feeling hurt.

Though moving on after having your heart broken is never easy,these tips will help:

1. Make a conscious decision to let go.

This is quite difficult because its easier to hold on to the hope that he will come back and the comfort of what you know, even if it was atoxic relationship.You need to let go so you canmove on, and letting go takes a conscious decision to wish him well. This takes courage and dignityboth of which will set you up for a healthy and fastrecovery.

2. Allow yourself time to grieve.

Let yourself mourn therelationshipthat endedwithout beating yourself up for what you think or wish you could havedone better.Its okay it you’re feeling sad and crying;this is a really important part of heartbreak recovery. The grieving process takes timeand giving yourself permission to take as long as it takes is key to your recovery.

3. Focus onloving yourself.

There’s so much written around this, but it’s true.You can only love others to the extent you love yourself. So in preparation for meeting the love of your life, use the time alone to learn how to love yourself really well.

4.Get comfortable with being alone.

Dont rush out to find the next guy.Believe it or not you can learn to luxuriate in your aloneness.Indulge yourself in enjoying being alone bydoing what you like, listening to the music you like, eating what you like, and not needing to consider what he likes or doesnt like. Take time to breathe and get in touch with yourself. If you’re like most women, you will have lost some of yourself in the relationship, especially if it was a difficult one.

5. Start a gratitude journal.

Take one day at a time. Each day, find one thing you’re grateful for in your life. Write it down with the date. As time goes by, you will look back over that journal and see how far you’ve come.

You dont need to write a lot, even just one sentence a day makes a big difference. Once you start journaling.you will feel better immediately.So dont wait!Get yourself a pen and notebook and start today.I always recommend you purchase a notebook which resonates with you, in the way it looks or feels. It could become your best friend for a long time, and you want to make sure you feel a strong connection with it.

6. Transition to your new life with joy.

Focuson being happy about the small things as well as big things. Pamper yourself with little luxuries which make you happysimple thingssuch as having a manicure or pedicure orgetting amassageas frequently as your budget will allow. Be adventurous and have a makeover, change your hairstyle and color. I suggest a bit of planning here so you make sure you schedule in one pampering activity each week for the first month or so.

7. Focus on your self esteem.

Your self esteem can take a really hard hit when you’re broken-hearted. Even more so if your exmoves on fairly quickly to someone new. Or Maybe you’re afraid of beingsingleandfeel you’re not whole on your own. Being strong on your own two feet is a wonderful feeling once you get the hang of it. Readeverything you can about building or rebuilding self-esteem. You will feel the difference as soon as you start your first book or article because you’re doing something positive for yourself.

8. Show kindness to yourselfand your ex.

This is a self-respect and self-confidence enabler and boosts yourhappinessto a much higher level, making recovery so much faster.

9.Be mindful of your neediness.

If you have a trusted psychic, then it may be soothing and reassuring to have one reading after your breakup. Avoid going for multiple psychic readings and seeking answers for your future. Too many conflicting readings can create more distress by overloading your emotions and decreasing your self-confidence. Searching outside yourself is never the answer because everything you need is within you.It just takes time.

10.Remember, you are better off without your ex.

As hard as this seems, it will get better. With your ex gone it opens the way for you to find the true love of your life.

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